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Ashe’s 10 Tips for Making Long Distance Love Easier
- Webcams make it more intimate. It seems kind of weird to go back to something that seems so 90s, but having a webcam so you can chat (via Skype or G-chat) makes the distance seem less far. The first time I saw the Beau on webcam I started crying, because it was so nice to see his face.
- Say it more often: I love you. I miss you. You’re handsome/beautiful/stunning/perfect.
- Have dates, even long distance. Most of my friends think it’s cute, but the Beau and I have movie/tv dates. We’ll pick a show or movie we both love, settle down at the same time, and watch together. We pause at the same times, we text to discuss what is happening (or if it’s really good, call shrieking at each other). Sometimes we even go so far as to have the same dinner (like pizza).
- Count down the days. When we’re within a two week period, the Beau & I send each other daily texts– 12 more sleeps! 9 more sleeps! It’s a simple, sweet way to convey the excitement of being together again soon.
- Use that time to grow as individuals. It’s so easy for young couples to get complacent with each other, and forget to challenge each other. Use your time apart as essential time to grow– and share the growth and changes with each other (otherwise you might grow apart!). Once you’re back together, it’ll make you stronger as a couple to have your interests and hobbies a stronger part of your life.
- Learn to compromise. Because long distance? It requires a lot of it. Somehow, I think it almost seems to require more of it for the Beau & I now than when we lived together. It’s easy to breed resentment when only one person does the visiting or is making the phone calls. You both have to be actively participating to make it work.
- Talk about the future– remember that there’s an end! Beau & I like to talk about the travels we’ll have, or design our ideal bedroom, plan for holidays with our families. Don’t use it to add pressure, but rather… as reminiscing. But for the future and not the past. Make small plans for when you’re together– buying museum memberships, cooking meals together.
- Challenge each other. Encourage each other. Use this as an extension of growing as individuals. The Beau has started a dungeons & dragons blog. So I send him daily tasks–ways to help him that I had to learn how. Things like leaving comments on other blogs or forums, teaching him about SEO. It gives me a chance to shine, challenge him and help him grow, all while encouraging him in something he loves (writing & gaming).
- Use that time to get to know each other again. Even as you guys rack up the notches on how long you’ve been together, there’s a time when stop communicating with each other. Long distance love makes it easier to start that honeymoon phase in your relationship all over again– you have nothing else but talking. You can’t touch and you can’t get too comfortable with each other.
- Trust, Honesty, & Only a Little Jealousy. It’s hard NOT to be jealous, and sometimes I like having my man a wee bit jealous (reminds him I’m a foxy bitch & he’s a lucky bastard). But if you let it…. the distance can really help eliminate jealousy in a relationship. I’m more secure in our relationship now than I ever was while we were together. It happens because you talk about how much you want each other, miss each other, can’t wait to be together again. It happens because when you spend so little time together, you see more often the love in their eyes. So when you go away…. that’s all you remember
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